Welcome to Elopements
If you have been with your partner for a significant amount of time, odds are you’ve heard, “So when’s the wedding?” more times than you’d like to count. In today’s age, the wedding industry is saturated with big and bold ideas about how you should get married. There are numerous advice on how your wedding should go––what to eat, venues to accommodate large guest lists, and planning the perfect reception activities for guests to enjoy. But there is a beautiful corner of this world that celebrates small and private weddings between partners, and that is the world of eloping.
How do I share the news?
If you have been considering eloping over a traditional wedding, it may be scary to think about telling your loved ones you’re not having a normal wedding, especially if you are planning on an intimate, private experience without guests. If this sounds at all like you, don’t worry! Here is a list of tips you can utilize to strive for the easiest transition possible for you and your significant other into married life. Use these when figuring out how to tell people you’re eloping.
Warn friends and family early if they are huge on big weddings. Some couples considering elopements have known since a young age that a traditional wedding isn’t the way for them. If you know early on, consider mentioning it to your loved ones. Be open, obvious, and upfront about your decision, and it is often the best choice to let your loved ones know face to face. Don’t lead people on, making them believe that an invite is on its way. Instead, let them know kindly and early that you are eloping, and share your reasons as to why it is a better choice for you. Those who know you and love you will understand.
Prepare for poor reactions
If you have loved ones who are big wedding people, you may be disappointing some with the news of your elopement. Because of this, it is important to prepare yourself for a range of possible reactions you could receive. Remember that it is your day, above anyone else’s, and the thought of letting someone down shouldn’t stop you from doing what you truly want to do. If necessary to avoid negative backlash, consider telling loved ones after your elopement ceremony is over. If you are still hoping to include loved ones in your elopement process, consider having a party before or after the ceremony, or gather at a later date for a reception to celebrate.
“We’re eloping!” announcements
Save yourself some postage and skip the save the dates, wedding announcements, and invitations. Instead, send out an elopement announcement after it’s all said and done. That way, you won’t have to deal with the bombardment of questions from friends and family, and their reactions (whether disappointed or not) won’t play a role in your decision. Remember that those who truly know you will understand your situation, and prioritize your happiness alongside you.
This is YOUR elopement wedding day.
Remember, this is your day. Prioritize your and your partner’s happiness and desired outcomes, and do what it takes to make that a reality. Loved ones may be upset, and that is hard, but you’re choosing YOUR happiness and dreams. We live for ourselves and no one else. How to tell people you’re eloping can seem like a daunting task, but it can be exciting for all! Think of it as the surprise of a lifetime and remember why eloping speaks to you.
If you’re stuck between eloping and planning a big wedding because you want to include friends and family, here are ways you can opt for a small wedding with all your loved ones!